They say communication is the keystone to a great relationship. There are ways to open communication with your partner every day. Whether it’s simple questions about his past or opening the conversation up to deeper topics, getting to know your partner’s goals, likes and dislikes will help you form a closer bond in the long run.
1. Friendship-strengthening conversations
Couples often fall in love by getting to know each other. And then they often fall out of love because they forget to continue to get to know each other over the years. They stop asking questions and stop learning about each other and themselves. Being known by and knowing your partner is what builds a strong friendship in your relationship. In secure, happy, and long-lasting relationships, partners are each other’s best friends. They share funny stories about the kids or work and listen to each other. Each one knows their partner’s frustrations, as well as their joys, personality quirks, hopes, and dreams.
2. Supportive conversations
I have your back. When your partner is hurting what do you do? How do you offer support that your partner needs? Essentially relationship security is having faith that your partner will be there for you when you need them. This is the essence of a secure attachment bond. Making time to give and ask for support is a key way in which you can show your partner that you care for them, understand what they’re going through, and have their back. How we provide that support and what we say is crucial. As much as it might be second nature to offer advice to your partner during their trials, support talk involves listening, validating, and just being there for your partner.
3. Conversations centered on affection and appreciation
To build a strong relationship, it’s vital to create a culture of love, respect, and care. You can do this in small ways that can create lasting changes over time. Make an intentional effort to think relationship-enhancing thoughts and to verbalize or make loving gestures towards your partner. Saying things even as simple as, “I appreciate that you took the rubbish out today. I love how I can count on you to help out around the house.” or “I love how you listen to what’s going on in my life. It makes me feel important and I appreciate that I can share that with you.
4. Share your daily highs and lows
Written in your wedding vows somewhere was probably something along the lines of “for better and for worse.” Well, when it comes to your relationship, it is important to share the “better and worse” daily. Make it a fun dinner-time tradition to share a high point and a low point of each day. This can even be something that the kids take part in, as well! Sharing one high and one low each day is a wonderful way to maintain healthy communication between you and your partner.
5. Tell your partner often why you love them
The initial stages of a relationship are filled with butterflies and constant verbal affection. The problem is, as time goes on, those butterflies tend to fly away and so do the “I love you because…. Of course it is normal to not be as “lovey dovey” as when you first met, but don’t forsake all verbal affection. Tell your partner you love them often, but don’t stop there! Tell them why you love them. Whether it be for taking the kids to the mall when you clearly need some relaxation time, bringing you flowers one random evening, or simply for being him. Whatever it may be, say it loud and say it proud.
6. How can I show you I love you?”
Most couples are good at saying those three little words, but actions speak even louder. Perhaps your loved one will want a kiss or some help in the garden. Whatever his or her request, your offer to display your love will make your partner feel cherished.
7. What do you like in the bedroom?
If you’re a conservative kind of lady who doesn’t talk about such things, well… do it anyway. This conversation is crucial to the rest of your relationship. Make no mistake — s**ual compatibility is one of the cornerstones to a great relationship. If you’re s**ually incompatible, it’s likely your relationship won’t work out in the long run. Does he have any kinks? Do you have any fetishes? If so, let them be known. It might be embarrassing at first, but when you’re living out those fantasies in the bedroom with someone you love, it’ll all be worth it.
8. You mean so much to me
If you’re in love and you haven’t told him yet, what are you waiting for? You should let your feelings be known in your relationship. If you’ve been dating for some time and still haven’t dropped the “I love you” bomb, it might be time. If it feels right, that is. And if it doesn’t feel right, there’s no problem in holding off. Wait until the feelings actually develop before making any grandiose proclamations of love. While love is great, being true to yourself is more important.
9. Ask your partner something new
Communication is the determining factor of success for every relationship. It’s nice to ask how your partner’s day went, but it’s boring when you ask over and over again. Enhance your conversation by putting in the extra effort to question your significant other on something more specific. Through this adjusted approach, you avoid falling into routine and begin holding more meaningful discussions.
10. Celebrate each other.
Saying something kind and affectionate to your partner should be a daily habit. The expression of loving thoughts nourishes your relationship by helping you both remember what it is you treasure about each other. Let your partner know how much you appreciate him or her, and be generous with compliments and expressions of affection.
11. Is there one ‘little’ thing about me that you would like me to change?”
Yes, this can spark a serious (and tricky) conversation, but by emphasizing the word little, you can lighten it up significantly. Sometimes we unconsciously do things that make our partner uncomfortable, but it’s not quite annoying enough for them to tell us. By asking this question, you can stop a little annoyance from becoming a big issue.
12. Is there anything I can do to make you feel more loved?”
This tender question may render your partner speechless, at least for a moment. But even if you have a great relationship, your mate can surely think of something that can make your love even stronger.
13.What’s something you’d like to do together that we have never done before?”
This can open up some ideas to excite both of you. You can play around with different ideas until you come up with a couple that really captivate you. Remember, doing new things with your partner will make you feel closer.