Here’s how to get into a man’s inner impulses and deep psychological drives to get him pleading for commitment faster than you ever imagined. Don’t just tell people what to do; show them how to accomplish it. Being too devious and attempting to coerce your man into marriage is a bad idea. Being overly direct or imposing limits on the relationship and his interactions with you, on the other hand, can make him feel even more under strain.
1. The key is to be straightforward with him while remaining non-aggressive.
Men are attracted to what they see, and they are turned on by your direct eye contact and approach. Demonstrate to him that you are who you say you are, that you like him, and that you see him for who he is, rather than your idealized or conditional vision of him. They won’t get the impression that you’re trying to hide something or that you have a hidden goal.
2. Allow him to make his own decisions about you.
Men are ferocious animals. Perhaps they have the heart of a tiger or a lion. They have a strong desire to commit and protect and provide for women, but this is tempered by a deep fear of being enslaved or controlled. He aspires to marry the right woman in the end. However, it must be his decision. If he senses even the slightest amount of pressure or expectation placed on him, he will flee. If he senses the enticing invitation (the “pull”) but knows you’ll be fine if he walks away, he’ll be even more compelled to pursue you.
3. Become less interested
This approach may appear to negate the purpose of eventually getting what you want from your boyfriend, yet it is one of the most effective ways to get him to commit. He’ll be able to smell your desperation from a mile away if you’re desperate for a guy to make you his girlfriend. This desperation will turn him off, and he’ll start plotting a variety of strategies to finally get rid of you. You must therefore become detached rather than needy and attached. If you lose interest in him, he will work harder to reclaim it, which will motivate him to push things farther.
4. Make his his friends like you
You have a minimal probability of becoming his girlfriend if you don’t get along with his pals. Most guys place a high value on obtaining acceptance from their friends, and they want to make sure that their new romance is well-received by those closest to them. If his buddies believe you’re obnoxious and unpleasant, it’s possible that your partner will back off and eventually run away from you.
5. Give him something to smile about.
If you want your partner to warm up to the concept of asking to commit to you, put him on your own reward system. When you reward a guy for going out of his way to do something nice for you, he will see commitment in a whole new light. A reward could be as simple as a thank-you note, a peck on the cheek,or a hug.
6. Don’t be an open book
To keep him intrigued, keep a sense of mystery around you. Even if you’ve been together for months or even years, you may maintain your mystery by picking up new hobbies and activities on your own. He will desire you more and want to learn everything there is to know about you because he can’t read you like an open book. With time, this desire will transform into love, and he will grow to appreciate all of your unique qualities. Check for these signals that he loves you if you’re not convinced.
7. Take care of yourself.
If you’re having fun in your own life as well as with him, he’ll see that he can, too. Maintain contact with friends and pursue new interests or hobbies. Women in partnerships have lost touch with their pals on numerous occasions, as I have witnessed. Even if you get together with friends for lunch or dinner once a month and attend to a dancing or gym class every weekend, you will be enjoying time that is not centered on your partner.
8. Get to know him.
In your man’s view, what makes you irreplaceable? You have the potential to inspire him by reaching deep into the core of who he is. To put it another way, if you want him to consider you vital in his life, you must give something far more uncommon and valuable than intimacy. I mean, it’s kind of self-evident, isn’t it? Despite this, this self-evident reality is distorted and ignored.
9. Put your efforts where they are needed
Putting energy in the right places is the key to establishing the basis for a strong, healthy relationship. Worrying and stressing diverts energy away from its intended destination. You won’t understand the importance of contributing that value to the relationship if you’re still preoccupied on your own problems, fears, and insecurities if you’re still feeling desperate and out of control. And you won’t be able to put your energy into the relationship since you’ll have spent all of your time thinking about trivial matters.